How Do You Do It All? The Truth We Forget

Written by Karina Pacific

How Do You Do It All? The Truth We Forget

It always starts the same way. I'll be at an event, chatting with a friend, or running into someone I haven't seen in a while;

"How do you do it all?" They ask.

At first, I didn't know how to answer. Do what, exactly? The businesses? The workouts? Friendships? Menopause? Meditation? Grocery shopping? Paying bills? Showing up for family? Keeping things running—without an assistant? Because, trust me, there are no hidden elves typing my emails or handling my bookkeeping, or fixing a flat tire.

But after hearing it again and again, I realized what people were really asking was: how do you keep showing up when there's so much to juggle? And the truth is, I don't have some secret master plan.

What I have is rhythm. A pulse. A way of putting one foot in front of the other and somehow, like so many of us, we make it all work.

Here's what I want you to hear: we are all doing it all. You included. And we need to stop overlooking that fact.

Why We Forget

We make the impossible look normal.

Consider this: how many things do you do on autopilot that would overwhelm someone else? Getting kids out the door. Meeting deadlines. Holding space for friends. Running households. Managing hormones. Making decisions all day long. And yet, we brush it off as "just life."

No, love. That's skill. That's a strength.

That's you showing up in quiet, consistent power.

The sneaky trap of the endless to-do list.

Here's another thing: our brains are wired to see what's left undone, not what we've already done. That's why the to-do list feels like it owns us. It never ends. Even on the most productive days, there's always one more unchecked box glaring at us, making us feel behind. But if you pause and reflect, look at what you have done. What you'll see is what you've moved through more than most people even realize.

The Day I Took Inventory

One week, I sat down and wrote out everything I've done the day prior, the week prior, and the month prior. Not just the big stuff, like closing deals or uploading products on KismetK.com, but the tiny, often unnoticed tasks that usually go unnoticed.

Answering emails. Grocery runs. Organizing taxes due. Inventory. Finding a new doctor. Listening to a friend who needed me. Cooking dinner and meditating, even for five minutes.

When I saw it all on paper, I almost laughed because I was performing magic without even noticing it. Quiet magic. Everyday miracles that I wasn't giving myself credit for.

And that moment changed things. Now I make it a practice. Once a week, sometimes even daily, I take inventory. Not to shame myself for what didn't get done, but to applaud what did. To be my own cheerleader. To whisper, "Look at you. You're actually crushing it."

What Keeps Me Grounded (a.k.a. my nervous system reset kit)

Let's be real: none of us can run at full tilt forever. My secret isn't that I "do it all ", it's that I have rituals that help me recalibrate when life feels like too much. These are my anchors from the Kismetk collection:

1. Caudalie Beauty Elixir Face Mist

Total nervous system reset, instantly boosting my happy! This cult fave is delicious, soothing and softening skin with every use. I mist through the day for hydrating, reset and self care.

2. Numi Organic Tea Three Roots

I make a cup in the evenings when I want to draw a line between "busy me" and "resting me." It tastes like comfort and reminds me I'm allowed to stop. No one's handing out medals for running yourself ragged.

3. Ancient Minerals Magnesium Bath Flakes

I love these magnesium flakes—they make baths and foot soaks deeply calming. Pure, fast-absorbing, and gentle on skin, they’re fragrance- and filler-free, sourced from the pristine Zechstein Seabed, and trusted globally since 2007.

Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend FAQs

Q: How do I start giving myself more credit?

A: Grab a notebook and do a quick "done list" at the end of the day.

Even three things. You'll shock yourself with how much you've actually carried.

Q: What if I feel guilty for slowing down?

A: Oh, babe, guilt is a fat liar. Rest doesn't make you weak; it makes you unstoppable. Your nervous system is the engine. If you run it dry, everything else sputters.

Q: Do rituals really help, or are they just nice extras?

A: They're game-changers. Rituals aren't just products or routines; they're signals to your whole being that you're allowed to pause.

They're reminders that you matter a great deal.